Tuesday, May 15, 2012

Know Who You Are Part 2




There is nothing like confidence, not cockiness, in self. When you are without a doubt about what you stand for and believe in there is nothing that can stop you.

Some of us figure this out at young ages, while others take years to find themselves. The latter are sometimes the ones that look for characteristics in others that they like and they adapt to their personalities, building some what of a clone in self. But all the while they still have not tapped into the one God created them to be.

When I was young some of that was me. Even though I knew what I believed in, and stuck to that, I didn't really know myself. I too tried to clone the perfect person in me that I thought others would like.

But as I grew up and matured, I came to a hard realization that no matter how perfect you try to be or are, all people are not going to like you regardless! So I figured then, that if your not going to like me, you won't like me for being the real me....not a clone.

It took me years to see who I was. How do I laugh, how do I feel, what type of people do I want to be around, what do I want to wear, what do I look good in, how do I handle stress, etc.. These were some of the things I had to take note of about myself. It was almost like learning to live all over again.

I remember right before my 30th birthday, I did some "house cleaning" in my life. I realized that because I didn't really know who I was, I had people in my life that really weren't for me. They were about what I could do for them, but was never there for me.

So my life played like a movie screen. And everyone that I saw that was not conducive for Christyl was eliminated. It was just that simple. I know that sounds rough, but that is the best thing I could have done for me.

That was the start of me seeing who I was by removing all the smoke screens and seeing clearly. Some of them didn't notice because.....they were all about themselves...hmm. My circle from then up until now has been very small. And I like it that way.

I am very loving to all people, but I know why each person is in my life (and that's with God's leading). I no longer drown out my seasonal relationships because I don't want to let go. Instead I thank God for the time I did have with them and make sure whatever I was supposed to pour into that person or learn, I did.

I thank God for his wisdom and discernment that has grown in me through out the years, to protect me from all the hazards of not knowing who I was. I am happy with who I am in Him and love being me!

Wednesday, May 9, 2012

Know Who You Are Part 1





So many things in life would be less complicated if we knew who we were. Whether it is us defining our likes and dislikes or just knowing what we can and can not do or take. If we knew who's we are then that would totally clarify a whole lot more about our entire being.

When I was growing up, my mom always spoke positive things over me, even in prayer. I never remembered her calling me something crazy (except that one time she got mad at me..lol). But what I learned while growing up is that what matters most about you is what you think about you.

Even though she spoke positive things, I still had to deal with some teasing from peers in grade school and other image problems that stemmed from that. It grew into a tree that was later hard for me to cut down, even with reading the "word" of God.

But things didn't change until I began to grow in God and His word, and that showed me who I was in Him. I realized I had the power all along to be someone great that could impact the world with my God given gifts.

I know this sounds so cliche, but the truth is that my mind had to be rewired and renewed. I had to see myself as God sees me.....blessed, beautiful, strong, powerful, bold and extremely gifted.....etc, etc. Then I began to speak those things to myself so that it would resonate in my spirit. It wasn't until then that it would illuminate and change my life.

Always hearing flattery and compliments can boost an ego. But nothing last like self image. Because when the day ends you are left with yourself and your thoughts. Make the most of life by believing the best for you!

Tuesday, May 1, 2012

Receive What You Expect




We all have our expectancies, whether good or bad. Sometimes they change depending on what we've been through. But regardless, we get what we expect.

There is a song called "Expect the Great" by Jonathan Nelson, that I love. It is uplifting and gets you in a mind to expect greater of what's to come than what you are experiencing now. I know we all get side tracked by the negative things in our lives and sometimes want to give up, but the word tells us that everything works together for our good.

When you begin to feel like your life is not getting any better and you start only expecting the worst, that's where it would be easy for you to lose the battle. No matter what, keep your focus that you are the head and not the tail and that God has not forgot about you. He wants you to live blessed!

Your latter (future) will be greater than your past and present. Once you change your views and mind set on life, then you will begin to see everything line up with your expectancy. Because regardless of negativity or positivity, your life is a reflection of what you believe.

If you believe you are better than your current situation, then that strength God has put in you will start to rise you above what you're going through. You will no longer settle for less or the mundane. You will see yourself with better and start striving for that.

So let's change our views to start expecting only the best for ourselves and our families and watch the power God has given you, turn your life around for greatness.